Have a better dream

It was a couple of years ago that this statement came on my path. “One day you will stand in front of something you find so beautiful and you will be satisfied just by looking at it”. You can love it at a distance without needing it was what they meant to say. ONE day? NO way was more like it! I wanted it ALL and I wanted it NOW!

I honestly could not belief that I could ever NOT want what I wanted without at some point having it. But it triggered something in me that made me want to investigate this deeper and so I started consciously experimenting with this phenomenon. Imagining how it would feel if I would never get it.. how would that be. Bit by bit I came to the conclusion that a LOT OF STUFF I could really easily let go of.. I came to realize that a lot of things is just wanting on automatic pilot.

Later on when I went deeper I came to understand something that I had known all along but this time on a much deeper level. We buy, and smoke and eat… we get addicted to compensate for what we don’t have, for the love we don’t have. And so for the feelings that we don’t WANT to have. And.. there are different levels of that… but I was graduating on the highest level possible haha. My closets.. filled with clothes that I had hardly or NOT worn at all.

Anyway the more I shifted to not needing by personal growth the more room came available to grow towards my dream. This was not something that I was aware of but when I look back I can see that the more you get in alignment with yourself by love and acceptance the more your true self comes looking around the corner of your life and the more you will naturally thrive. And really… once that happened.. I really did not have the urge to want something on that level anymore. Those things become less important once you discover the real importance of your life. And then that will give you all the satisfaction you need and nothing….. really no material thing can compete.

By the way….

I still love clothes, shoes and lots of other beautiful stuff 😉

but I now have the freedom of loving it without needing it

appreciating it from a distance

and if I have it I can enjoy it in freedom

without the burden of fear of losing it

and not having it again .. because I did not

need it in the first place

when you no longer need

you’ll know the feeling

of being freed

And the dream…


maybe not right away…

but you can have it all




What is that one word that you tell yourself too often?

One of the big reasons that we do NOT reach our dreams is because we don’t get to the point of taking the first step or get stuck. And why.. do we not take that first step? Of course because of the story we’ve been telling ourselves… most of the time we have taught ourselves to capture that whole feeling of all those internal discussions we held with ourselves in ONE word. And it has become this negative conditioning POWER word that keeps us from even thinking a thought beyond impossible. Phewwww….. we keep wanting and then….. conditioning ourselves with that one word…

What is that word for you? Impossible…difficult.. hard…..  That word that puts you in a blow back into your place.. that save prison where you belong. Because yeah… that’s where your ego will want to keep you. Maybe it’s not the best place but then again it’s a safe place.

Why not start imprinting yourself with real POWER talk. You got nothing to lose. Why not start telling yourself a different story and see how it works out. See what effect it has on you. Once you start doing this your perception will change. You will start experiencing your world differently. Your view will broaden. Instead of repeating all the reasons why you can NOT, start writing down all the reason why you CAN. Slowly turn it all around.

Break down that ONE destructive word that keeps you from moving towards what you want. Tear it down. One letter at a time and replace it with something constructive. You could go from it’s hard or impossible … fill in the blancs… to…. something I will find a solution for. Starting NOW…

Tony Robins often mentions that reaching goals is more often about resourcefulness.. than about resources. So if you think you’re stuck, wake up and shake up .. shape up your creative sources. We all have them, we just need to plug into it. To be open to our highest source.

And switching to powertalk will help you connect with that part

When you feel good.. you are connected

Align with your divine


with all my love tineke

Then… HOW do I get to my dream

Oh ..this question…. there is no answer to all the fear you choose to keep inside. And as long as you don’t take charge it will abide. Don’t hide .. look them in the eye. Just imagine .. what is the worst that can happen if you take a small step towards you dream? Just the slightest action can cause a wonderful chain reaction. On the other hand you can decide to walk arms in arms with fear forever. And have a never ending romance with your dream. Lets be honest.. if you really make the step so small that’s it’s almost riskless… then.. you can taste the zest of what you crave a bit more. It will inspire to take a step higher. So step by step and rewire


Life will hand you the opportunities but YOU are gonna have to decide to take it. To take the necessary inspired and MASSIVE action. And by that I mean… be clear in what you want. On the way to your dream you will meet situations in which you will be tempted to settle. Yet so often it is just this enlarged spot of where you  have been before. Get your blind spots clear and hover over them. Be resolute and absolutely clear in what you do NOT want. Only then will you get to where you want to be.

It’s a matter of sorting out what comes your way. Be courageous and say NO when it’s not what you want. If  you’re clear the Universe can set course forward very quickly. If you’re not the Universe will  just move with you from this one to the other spot.

LIFE then … will not change a lot

Let your fear disappear

and get clear


With all my love



the world is changing

Can you feel it? The world is rearranging. People are taking charge of their lives no longer being satisfied with the rat race they’ve been in. Either they chose not to be there anymore or life gives them no other choice then to hold back and find another track. We’ve been there for much too long. And we’ve been passing it through from generation to generation. Mostly we do not even have a clue what to do with life. We don’t know any longer how to be happy or how to thrive. Long term happiness in every moment is what we miss. We just keep running after all the goals that society keeps so high. We’ve been running so long we don’t even no anymore how to fly. But deep inside you… you still do. You know and feel it deep inside.. that whisper that will no longer hide. It’s popping up like curls on a seas wave. Brave and wild, the cry of your inner child. Yes it knows that you know. And it won’t stop. It won’t stop until you listen. Until you crack open the shell of your heart. Until it is seen in every part. Every part so carefully hidden away. It’s time now. Time to reconnect with all you are. To follow the shine of your inner star.

You are changing.. as the world is rearranging

Feeling like scrooge mc Duck?

Imagine you always had the best of luck in the world. That you always got what you wanted. Then.. what would you believe about your dream? Would it be easy or take a lot of effort. I can tell you when I was younger life seemed to flow effortlessly and somehow I just assumed that things would go my way. I felt like scrooge mc Duck really. From this stance I was never thinking I was just acting… for I would already assume that things would work out for me.

A little more down the road of adolescence, little by little I lost this magical view of life and I became more and more realistic. I now realize I was giving away my innerguidance to outer experiences making me feel less of lifes magical touch. I had to convince myself of my ability to create something and doubt would be looking around the corner following me wherever I took my dreams. Is this not what we all do? We used to DO things but now we THINK things…. run over by doubt we leave action sitting in the corner.

What I did different then..

If you can belief in yourself from your pure core the passion will fire you up so fast that you don’t even know what hit you.. and THAT’s exactly the feeling that I used to have. You want to start NOW because you feel in your gut that this is the thing you want to do… and more importantly… that you want to experience. If we speak of “experience” there has to be no winning outcome. It just is… an experience. We’ve become afraid to experience and that’s sad because what more is life… than one big EXPERIENCE? We block ourselves from feeling the passion and taking the action..

So if you ask yourself now.. what is it that I want to experience? If everything I did would be succesful then what actions would I have taken long ago that I have not done now? Really get this into your heart… if everything you did would become a great succes? How much passion would you feel? When would you start and what would you start doing? And then ask yourself the next question because it might just be your biggest blockage. Does it have to be a succes or am I just doing it for the experience? Because if you’re doing it for the experience you are already succesful and the fear and passiveness will melt away and take you into summer…

Be like Scrooge mc Duck. No fear for failure just doing by determination.

….just because you want to .. not because you need… to succeed

With all my love,




goal getter or goal setter?

oh yeah.. you know the feeling of a good idea bubbling up the surface of your soul don’t you? Dwelling on the flames of this spark of desire taking you higher and higher. It does not get any better than this does it? The bubble does not burst and you keep floating in this delicious atmosphere of fantasy. But don’t you want to really live your dream real life?… hate to tell you. But that’s all it will be, a dream.  If…. you are a goal setter.

Dream after dream….

What makes us start any project or dream with enthusiasm for it to slowly extinguish with the hands of time. We can become addicted to the feel good neurochemicals that flow so freely when we are in the process of imagining. It takes no effort and you feel delicious. Yes? So I think we will agree that actually taking action and turning the dream in to something real will bring with it some challenges. These can be big ones or minor issues but you will encounter resistance in whatever way. Now that is not motivating.

How can we keep the dopamine flowing?

To make sure we keep going and keep being inspired to move towards what we want to bring down.. to manifest what we want, we have to set out a strategy. You have to cut the goal in pieces and reward yourself every time you accomplish a part of it. This makes you want to go GET because there is this motivating dopamine reward in between. And.. the closer you get to reaching your manifestation… the more exciting it will become. You can just feel it coming!

Entertain your brain. Visualize

In your strategy plan integrate time to visualize. As you know the brain does not make any difference between a real experience or one that you imagine. The feeling is the same. So take every oppertunity you have to “feel good visualize” and you will open your eyes motivated, inspired and full of energy to continue working on your dream. And the good thing is.. it will not take you ANY effort because you are inspired. You will enjoy every second of creating it while being FULL of energy and feeling FREE



Your soul has no goal but to be whole

I used to have this goal in life. Very small and sweet. And at that point of my life I really loved it. I really wanted this little outdoor table with matching chairs to put in front of my house because it would give life a magical touch. It would make it just a little bit more fairytale like. Put a little pot with flowers on it. And be happy. ……for that moment. yes.

lack of purpose

But it lacked purpose for the long road as did my other goals. I would be searching for something new to fill the depth of my desire ongoing. And even as it did feel satisfying for the moment it would never completely cover the urge.. my search for full passionate happiness. The feeling of being ALIVE and thrive without reason.

Something that I did not know at that time by the way. Neither did it matter for I was not aware of it. Yet still this is what so many of us do. We follow the road on automatic pilot … until awareness hits us on the head with a hammer. We wake up with the hangover of an overdose of NEED.. zombiefactor 10. Feeling like our life is not complete. Searching for what it is that we really yearn for. Like .. we have it all but we’re still not happy.


I did know from a very young age what I wanted but I had quietly shushed it to sleep. Bit by bit it disappeared to the background of my knowing. Burried under a pile of expectations from the outside world. The world of prestige and taking. Degrees and faking.

It’s a journey I guess for all of us to discover our true purpose. To rediscover who we are in essence. To be led by the inside instead of being forged by the outside. We have to purge ourselves of the unnecessary motivation to achieve to reach the natural unfolding of our soul. And only then.. only then will our creations be ultimately succesful and satisfying. Only from that place will we feel this eternal peace and quiet that we so long for. From authenticity. And maybe that purpose is getting into a boat and sail around the earthly isle for a while. Whatever it is.. do it. Give your soul the zest that it’s looking for. It might open a new door 😉

simply enjoy who you are

A purpose has no goal. It is without end. Day after day without deadline. Without routine. it just is.. from daily intend. Naturally unfolding. It is what you ARE not to be worked to just to be discovered and felt. And from that point to be acted on. It’s the inspiration that comes to you without warning. Like a new day dawning. Her rays sweetly caressing your face. Silently alluring you to JUMP out of bed and start the day. To take action just because the energy in you is so high that you are not wondering why.  You just have to follow and flow with it.

but it all started with a goal…. 😉